New member going through rough time

So sorry for your loss. I just got back from FL due to my father going threw a very scary time. Your family is in out thoughts and prayers.🙁
 
I am so sorry about your loss. We will all keep you in our prayers. This site is a good place to be. Lots of good folks with kind hearts and broad shoulders if you need one to lean on.
 
Donny, I am so sorry for your loss and can only imagine the hurt/confusion you're feeling right now. I lost my brother (car accident) and mother (cancer) within 10 days of each other & my father a few years later. As a Junior in high school, it was a tough blow, but with a strong network of family and friends, I was able to pull through it. Lean on your family and friends....they are there to help you in any way possible.

I too am here if you want to talk about things or just get out on the trails and ride. I ride Allamuchy primarily, but have been know to hit up Ringwood from time to time.

Don't hesitate to PM me; I can send you my cell.
 
really thank you for all your support. I never thought when i joined this forum i would use it to vent the loss of my dad. i will def try to meet up with some of you on trail rides. I was shooting for this weekand but my grandfather passsed this mourning, but this one was expected, he was 80 plus he has been on life support for the past 3 months so i was ok with his death. it just going to suck going through another burial and wake at the same place as my fathers
 
terribly sorry for your loss man! 🙁 i lost my mom 3 years ago when i was 16, and me and her were a lot closer than me and my dad are. it might feel awkward, but dont hesitate to come to any of us for comfort or support; even if none of us ever met you in person, we'll all be more than willing to help out in anyway we can! that's 2/3 of what this community's here for!! just hang in there! life goes on! 😱
 
Donny939 said:
my grandfather passsed this mourning, but this one was expected, he was 80 plus he has been on life support for the past 3 months so i was ok with his death. it just going to suck going through another burial and wake at the same place as my fathers
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UGH! Expected or not, it stinks. Being in the same place might be sucky, but it may help get things more at peace with your dad's passing. Donny, there are no words for how sad I am for you right now. Surround yourself in your family and friends, even those you don't know, each has a place in your healing.

Have faith that it will stop raining in your life soon and when it does it will be glorious.
 
Jeez, I cant imagine how tough it is right now for you. Hang in there and be strong, were all behind you. We will be around for some riding when the time comes.
 
your Loss

Donny,
I am very sorry to hear of the passing of your father and grandfather, I will pray for both of them and I will pray for you. I lost my brother in 2003 to Diabetes and it was a tough time, with help from family and friends I was able to be at peace and I found solace in getting back on my Bike and riding, and on this site you will have many friends and people who will listen. You have reached out please take comfort in knowing we all here are willing to help..


"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened" (Matthew 7:7,8).

Blessings,
Mike
 
Donnie, I feel your pain. My father died in his sleep of heart attack when I was 18. It was quite a shock and after 15 years, there is not a day that goes by that something doesnt remind me of him. My dad was hero. He taught me so many great things and made so many sacrifices for me. I wish that I had the ability to understand that at age 18. But I was a stupid kid and took many things for granted. Caused me quite a bit of guilt over the years. After he died I went on a mission to improve my life. Went to college, starting eating right and working out. I feel I have done many things in the past 15 years that he would be very proud of...all of course can be bittersweet as he is not there to share them with me. But I learned two very important things that keep me on the correct path over the years. One was that I had a really great dad for 18 years. Something that so many people will never have. I was really very lucky that my father always made time for me and lived to pass his knowledge on to me. I have friends whose father are complete assholes and have no relationship with their children. I would have rather my dad had been who he was even if it was only for 18 years.
Two is that I learned that tragedy is inevitable and that it will happen to all of us in our lives. I have had bad things happen to me in the years since my father died, however when it does happen I know now that I will learn something valuable and some good will come of it. When my father died it sparked me to change my life for the better and gave me all the motivation I needed. When I broke my leg it led me to find biking, etc... Every bad event has taught me something very important and has led to something good.

Anyway, Hope to see you on the trail someday

Joe
 
it takes alot for a person to open up and i respect that greatly! if you even need anything im sure we all are here for ya!
 
thanks. its been about two weeks now and things are ok. I am trying to get back to normal, riding my bike a lot spending time with my family. looking forward to the five boro tour may 2nd
 
hey Donny, man I am so sorry. Stay strong, keep doing what you love and keep the memories of those you've loved alive. I'm sure you've heard it before but time really does heal. I've lost a few close people in my life, not as sudden as what you've had to live through, but it never happens easy does it.
I'm over in the Deer Park/Allamuchy area, also on the younger side of the mtb folks - 24 - if you ever want to ride out this way I'd be happy to show ya around and we have a lot of great group rides out here.
keep up your positive attitude, mt biking is one of the best ways out there to do that! - Megan
 
hang in there

hey donny,
hope you are doing ok man, i'm sorry to hear about your father. keep your head up, things will be ok. I am also in recovery for drug addiction and biking has been a huge part of me staying clean. It's great to hear that other fellow recovering addicts have incorporated riding into a new way of life. I'm also new to this site but have been mountain biking for years. If you ever need to vent, talk, whatever, or maybe feel like going for a ride, feel free to PM me. take care bro
andrew
 
I hope you're doing ok Donny.
I see that you'll be attending the 5 Boro Bike Tour. So will I. If you'd like, all of us from this forum who are going should meet up before the ride in Staten Island or Battery Park and we could all ride together. I'll be starting a thread about that as it gets closer to the ride.
Take care.
 
Good lord Utah you got me crying.

Hey Donny, going mountain bike riding is awesome for down days. Post up a Ringwood ride for this weekend and I'm sure you'll get a few takers. I won't be riding til May 8th myself but there's a ton of northern NJ riders here. Good luck and be well -
 
Wow, I've never met any of you guys, but you are ALL amazing. Makes me cherish every moment I get to ride. 🙂

Donny, if you post a Ringwood ride for the following weekend I might be down. I haven't had my butt kicked there since last October. Yep, I'm about due.
 
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