Thanksgiving!!!!!!
Peezy's Black Magic 2013
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Thanksgiving!!!!!!
Wait, the JC is down with butt sex? Damn, who knew?
I am assuming these classes are dictated by the Catholic religion? I am not looking to start any kind of religion debate but the irony....
Anyways, I took no such classes and seem to be doing just find. I think a large percent of people are just going through the motions and I doubt that many people find a deal breaker situation as a result of these classes.
Dusty the Whale
Mr.Chainsaw
No. Buttsex is an EVOLVED form of vaginal sex therefore he isn't down. At least that's what I learned from Sister Lynn in 1st grade
Pearl
THIS CHANGES EVERYTHING
Mandi and I are far from religious, so I could really give two shits, but I don't want a full blown flame war to look back on 3 years from now when I'm old and wish I had enough time to do absolutely nothing and ride my bike 🙂
Let's try not to get too crazy about the religion thing, because it will usually end up taking a turn for the worse. We are doing this for our parents. I do attend church on Sundays as often as I can, in the woods on my mountain bike 🙂
Let's try not to get too crazy about the religion thing, because it will usually end up taking a turn for the worse. We are doing this for our parents. I do attend church on Sundays as often as I can, in the woods on my mountain bike 🙂
Dusty the Whale
Mr.Chainsaw
Give the parents an inch they'll take a foot. After the wedding Jamie and I are writing off our parents
hilarious.
i did get one piece of advice that got from an older couple that stuck in my head from it: don't go to bed angry. great advice.
other than that, all i personally figured out was that i might as well be muslim or jewish since i grew up in a presbyterian-church'd family and was getting married catholic.
but i did see some couples figure out that they need to talk about a few thinks, important things like having kids, before they got hitched.
soulchild
Well-Known Member
signature worthy!
As most people are. I am suspicious of people who want to go to church when they don't have to, at least before they have kids.
I tried that with my parents over all the religion crap they pulled around wedding time (I married a Jew*) and it didn't work.
*they didn't like it when I told them that Jesus was a jew
you should also mention to them...."hey you know jesus was born and lived in the middle east....isnt it funny that he looks like he is from southern california in all of those paintings?"
She was in an Oasis
1speed
Incredibly profound yet fantastically flawed
I think the idea of those classes is fine, but the application - at least in our case - was just ham-fisted and terrible. As Chris said, if it helps you out with financial issues, family planning, etc. than that's great. There was no way the one we were in was going to do that because it was just really poorly done and the people who were there to "teach" us were laughably terrible. The "do as I say" delivery was a little too much for me personally. But I see how the basic premise -- that people who have been married for a long time might have some advice and experience worth sharing for those about to get married -- could be a good thing.
And here's another pop quiz for you all: why is Xmas celebrated in December when all historical analysis suggests that the actual birth occurred sometime around March? (Hint: You win more flies with honey ...)
And here's another pop quiz for you all: why is Xmas celebrated in December when all historical analysis suggests that the actual birth occurred sometime around March? (Hint: You win more flies with honey ...)
1speed
Incredibly profound yet fantastically flawed
Exactly! That's kind of a smart move by the early missionaries, don't you think? Why fight battles you don't have to? They came to these barbarian cultures who lived ridiculously hard lives and basically had one time during the year when they got to have fun and enjoy themselves. So rather than take that away from them, they just told them that what they were really celebrating was the birth of Jesus and let them continue. Pretty smart, considering that if they tried to take their winter solstice festival away from them, there's a good chance they're mission would have ended with their heads on pikes.
THATmanMANNY
Well-Known Member
oh wooord? No wonder why I've seen them with the M3 loaded with bikes here and there. I wave to them but I think twice I was in helmet. We should get a girl's ride because Erin wants to get out more.
I don't have a religion but I married Catholic chic. I'll play devil's advocate, or in this case, Big J's advocate. SERIOUS, I actually found it enlightening in some ways. It confirmed that we know each other very well. We agreed on about 95% of topics and we were astonished about what other couples did not agree on and thought it was okay to have debt (besides a mortgage). WTF?! They obviously did not discuss many marriage topics and this taught them to go home and discuss. I learned what marriage is and is not. I didn't pay attention to much what the big J says marriage is but I learned a lot from the volunteer speakers. They had some great stories to tell about their marriage.
(1speed beat me to it) However, I think it depends what kind of program you are in. We didn't have to do much with our church. Just met a couple times and asked simple questions. We attended an all day saturday thing at a nearby church. That covered more real life topics and not much religious aspects. It was more about learning about each other and participating with others. Sunday we went to the Diocese. It was a little more religious and less participation. He outlined what marriage and had some stories to share. I think it's probaly changed a lot since a Republican supports gay rights.
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mandi
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If we get anything out of this, reading Ephesians 5: 22-24 was worth it. Let me break this down for you:
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."
I read this outloud and James says "Damn straight."
We are not getting married in a church, but we are having a Pastor do our ceremony at our wedding site. Thankfully he is the most laid back Pastor I've ever met. We have to read verses, but it's more about teaching the lesson that comes with it. Like Chris said, it is more about making sure you're compatible with each other.
This is 100% for our parents, who really aren't having much say in our wedding. Planning a wedding teaches you to choose your battles. Pastor > The Ordained Minister my sister had who read quotes from Hallmark cards. I kid you not... she said "here are a few quotes I like from Hallmark cards." Can't even make that up
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."
I read this outloud and James says "Damn straight."
We are not getting married in a church, but we are having a Pastor do our ceremony at our wedding site. Thankfully he is the most laid back Pastor I've ever met. We have to read verses, but it's more about teaching the lesson that comes with it. Like Chris said, it is more about making sure you're compatible with each other.
This is 100% for our parents, who really aren't having much say in our wedding. Planning a wedding teaches you to choose your battles. Pastor > The Ordained Minister my sister had who read quotes from Hallmark cards. I kid you not... she said "here are a few quotes I like from Hallmark cards." Can't even make that up
I thought it was earlier, when you couldn't be a Christian under the Romans so instead of celebrating Christmas, you were just celebrating the Winter Solstice?
Probably doesn't matter much, it's all made up either way.