New member going through rough time

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Donny939

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Hi my name is Donny my dad passed away today. He died in his sleep of a heart attack. I don't know why I am telling you all this. I am a mess and just venting and maybe someone who has advice would be great. I am 25 years old from west milford. I love biking I just started geting serious this season. It has helped me get through an addiction and has filled my life with a healthy joy. I figure since we are all from jersey maybe I could meet some new friends to ride with. I like jungle habitat and I would also like to learn the ringwood trails. I also have alot of good trails right by my house that I would be happy to show people. I feel a little better talking and venting. Thank you for listening
 
Hey man...very sad. My mother passed away a few years ago from breast cancer and yesterday was her birthday, I understand what you're going through losing a parent. I still sometimes go on emotional roller coasters but its all about being strong and gathering myself together when I need to. Obviously you are grieving and will be for a while just DO NOT let yourself slip up. Stay on the path you're on now and you'll be fine. My roll in my family was to put on my "face" for younger brother and sister and do my thing when I wasn't needed by them. You'll be fine just relax and let this chapter play out.
 
Welcome Donny, sorry for your loss, but I'm sure he was proud that you started turning your life around! I have also got back into biking this past year after losing my battle with addictions but now I have healthy ones. We'll have to hook up and ride, I'm in Sparta so I hit Allamuchy, Mahlon and Kittatiny alot. Good luck bro
 
Welcome Donny. So sorry about your Dad.
There's a great group of people here of all ages that love riding and sharing the trails, fun times and good food. Poke around the different forums and come join us.
 
Hey man, sorry for your loss. Even though these next few day and weeks will be tough, keep your head up and stay positive. i'm 35, my dad passed when I was 19, my mom passed 4 years ago, both from lung cancer. I totally understand the feelings you get when you lose a parent as I watched both of mine take their last breaths.

I'm no stranger to funerals, from May of 08 to September of 09 I attended 6 funerals, 3 of which were self induced. You are sure to have a wide range of emotions, just try to remain focused on the good things.

Hang in there
 
Sorry about your loss. Im in recovery as well, if you need to talk I can PM you my cell. Hang in there. -John
 
Sorry for your loss... Get involved w/ the Tm's and group rides, it will help you keep your focus and meet a bunch of great people.
 
hang in there donny...all things must pass.
there is plenty of therepy on dirt & mtbnj😉
 
thank you all. Tomorrow is the wake. I hope to ride my bike by next week, I am currently laid off so i have a lot of free time, is any one going for a ride in ringwood and needs some company?
 
Sorry to hear about your loss. I've lost a couple close family members and know its tough. You found a great sport though, riding is definitely a great way to get your mind of things, relax, and have some fun. I'm from central jersey but most of the time I ride up North so maybe we can meet up sometime. Post up when your looking to ride or keep an eye on the Rides, Races, Events forum and thats a great way to meet up with people for rides. My rides are usually pretty spontaneous, but if I end up planning to go to Ringwood or somewhere in that area this week I'll try to shoot you a PM.
 
My condolences Donny. I lost my Dad when i was 20. This past January was the 20th anniversary of his passing. I still miss him now just as ever.
Get out and ride, it's great therapy and helps clear your mind.
 
thanks for all the comments. Today was the burial.. Now I just need to keep busy and try and think good thoughts. again thanks
 
Donny, sorry for your loss. A burden shared is halved and a joy shared is doubled. The grieving process for a parent is tough but you will get through it. My mother passed away in 2001 and my father is in the advanced stages of lung cancer. I just celebrated 9years of sobriety this month and am able to be there for my dad because of it. Your father would be proud of you for what you are doing. Biking is great therapy for the body and soul, as others have said get involved with TM and group rides. Live life with a purpose but have fun while you accomplish it.
 
Hey Donny, very sorry to hear about your loss, you are alot younger then I. You, 25, me, 52. I just lost my mom two months ago today, and my dad 18 months ago, just finished cleaning out my parents house up in Mountainside, its sold...
I hope it will get better, time will heal.

Keep riding, its a great diversion, try to laugh alot..I know its hard now, it will get better.
 
So sorry Donny. I lost my dad when I was 23 and turned to drugs and alcohol for help, but it didn't. You chose the right path by reaching out to the great people that make up this mountain bike community. All you can do now is live your life in a fashion that would make your father proud. I decided to change my ways and I am better for it and I take comfort in thinking my father would be proud of me. A lot of us feel your pain. Stay strong and if you need to chat feel free to pm me as well as FFT...he's a cool guy.🙂

Frank
 
So sorry for your loss! I commend you for sharing and reaching out for help. I lost my mom when I was 21 and then lost a few close people soon after. It's been a rough time getting my life back together, but biking definitely helps...because of the exercise aspect, because it gets me into nature, and largely because I have met a lot of nice people here. Come on out on some rides and meet us all...we'll do our best to cheer you up!
 
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